Choose a context with room for an honest answer
Avoid asking when the other person is trapped in a social situation, intoxicated, dependent on you professionally, or otherwise likely to feel unable to answer freely. Privacy can help, but privacy should not become pressure.
Say what you actually mean
You do not need a scripted pickup line. State that you are attracted to them, that you are interested in something casual rather than a committed relationship, and ask whether they might be interested too.
Treat uncertainty as uncertainty
“Maybe,” hesitation or changing the subject is not permission to keep escalating until you get a yes. Give the other person space. A clear arrangement begins with a clear choice.
If they say no
Accept it cleanly. If you genuinely value the friendship, behave like a friend rather than making continued friendliness conditional on eventual sex.
If they say yes
The next conversation is about expectations: exclusivity, sexual health, communication, discretion, sleepovers and what either person should do if feelings change.
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Ask yourself three things before raising the idea. First, would you genuinely accept a no without trying to wear the person down? Second, are you being honest about wanting something casual rather than quietly treating FWB as a stepping stone to commitment? Third, are you prepared to discuss sexual health and boundaries as directly as you discuss attraction? If the answer to any of those is no, slowing down is more useful than finding a cleverer line.
Clarity should make opting out easy
A strong beginning is not measured by whether the other person agrees. It is measured by whether they understand what is being proposed and can choose freely. That makes the arrangement more informative for both people: a yes means more, and a no can be respected without turning the friendship into a negotiation.
Labels help describe a relationship, but expectations are specific to the people in it. When something important changes, a direct conversation is usually more useful than trying to decode a rule from the internet.